We each have many types of love relationships — parents, children, spouses, friends. And they’re not always with people; you may love an animal, or a place. Is there a single idea or definition that runs through all the varieties of “love”?
Foreigner asked this question when I was much younger… : “I want to know what love is…” And since then, this question is still bugging me, and keeping me busy in my thoughts. For I am a wedding official in our country. Our Department of Home Affairs licenced me to perform weddings, that is binding by law…
As a marriage official, I have seen so much couples over the past two decades. And each of them had a song in their heart, with which they opened the dance floor after the wedding. Some sing to each other the words of Josh Groban: “You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains…” They sing to each other with Savage Garden: “Truly, madly deeply…” They look deep into each other’s eyes later in the evening and sing with Queen: “ You’re my best friend” or Joe Cocker crones for them: “You are so beautiful…” As the evening progresses the Boyz II Men promise: “I’ll make love to you...” and one of my favourite songs… Eric Clapton, the master- “Beautiful Tonight…”
But how can a late night at the wedding reception not have Barry White, in that deep voice, singing: “My first, my last, my everything…” or Elvis, the King, sings “ Love me tender…” How could a wedding feast not have the Righteous Brothers singing: “Unchained Melody…” or Lionel Ritchie and Diana Ross with ” Endless LOve“
The beginning of love is a beautiful song…
But I, as a pastor, also see the other end of the journey in so many lives…
Even here are some songs applicable: U2- “With or without you…” Sometimes doubt sets in… Tina Turner asks: “What’s love, but a secondhand emotion?“
It’s a sad day when Air Supply begins to say: “I’m all out of love” And Joe Cocker cries: “Unbreak my heart…” Like Heart, you can feel so “Alone”
Then the whole Country genre of music kicks in- your horse dies,, your dog bites you, all goes South… “You piiiicked a fine time to leave me Lucille…” (Kenny Rogers) And Shania Twain asks “Whose bed have your boots been under?” Bummer.
Over a drink you cry with R.E.M “Everybody hurts...” Till Roy Orbison declares: “It’s over…” You go with Elvis to the “Heartbreak Hotel”. Your “significant other is now, in your eyes, as Pat Benatar declares, a “Heartbreaker…” You wish for just “ONe more night” with Phil Collins, but you had your chance… And Linda Ronstadt says “It hurts so bad…” Later all you can think about is: “Yesterday” (the Beatles). Yip, Bob MArley- “No woman no cry”…
I have seen love’s beginning, and I have seen love’s end. Love does not have to end! But it takes hard work to keep it alive and growing…
How to save your love?
- Boston has it right. Love is “More than a feeling!”
- Treasure each other- Shania Twain: “You’re still the one…“
- “Don’t you forget about me” – Simple Minds- Make the other one feel special.
- ” Nothing compares to you“- Sinead o’ Connor- wise words! Don’t Compare!
- “You are always on my mind” Elvis- Think about how to be a good companion for life’s journey!
- “In the arms of the angel” Sarah Maclachlin- Give each other hugs, celebrate each other’s bodies…
- “The first time, I ever saw your face” Roberta Flack – Remember, and celebrate your journey together!
- “To where you are” Josh Groban- time spent together is important, make it count!
- “I believe I can Fly” by R Kelly- Believe when you can’t see…
- “The Greatest Love of all”– Whitney Housten- BE that to your lover!
But in the end- Foreigner still have the best answer to the question: “I want to know what Love is…” And that is… “I want you to show me…”